Maybe you’ve heard about IoT - the Internet of Things. Maybe you haven’t. Honestly, it doesn’t really matter. You know, whether you consciously recognize it or not, that all of your things have an emotion (or two or three or six) captured within them - resulting what I like to call the EoT: the Emotion of Things. This EoT is what can make it difficult - even impossible - to release an item out of your life as you are making the changes to love your space again.
Emotions are amazing to me. Like the sense of smell, feeling or reliving an emotion through an object can be exhilarating or overwhelming, and sometimes both at the same time. You remember who gave the item to you, and for what occasion; you remember the feelings and emotions you had when you made the purchase; you link a certain world event to something because you bought or received it the day that the world changed for you. These emotions don’t have to be labeled “good” or “bad”, “happy” or “sad” - in my opinion, the emotion contained in the object can be recognized and honored in a positive and loving way no matter what.
To me, that is the first step as you begin to really organize a space - taking the time to review and honor the contents, before making any decisions about the future of any of the objects or the overall space. Getting quiet, feeling the feelings of the space and the things and acknowledging them, without any pressure to make “peace” with the way you feel or pushing yourself to feel any specific way. Completing this step has the ability to remove any power an object (and even the space itself) might have over you, allowing you to take back that power and clear your mind, enabling you to move forward and to make decisions and change your life.
I’ve helped people with the review / honor step - sometimes, having someone who doesn’t know the space and object’s story and can be objective helps a great deal - and I’ve been asked to give clients more time before we can move forward on a project (and a few times, it’s been up to a year). I understand either way because I’ve been through it myself. Making a change in a lived-in or loved space is a LOT to take on and to deal with; it can be overwhelming at times. Whatever you need, remember: I can help. I am willing to help. Let’s work together to get you to the next level of loving your space again.